Are you one of those parents who feel that they are not communicating enough or not communicating right with their kids? Sometimes it is so when the kids do not want to talk to their parents but there is a deeper reason to that.
The reason is that they start feeling that their parents will not understand. In order to build loving and healthy communication with your kids, you need to first make sure that they are reassured that you do understand each and everything they said. This does not mean that you give them a history lesson on how you went through the same kind of problems when you were their age, but you could be just like a supportive friend to them.
It is best if you as a parent talkless and listen more. Tell your kids to let all kinds of feelings out and make sure that if they say something which might sound outrageous in the first place, you do not flare up. If you do so, they will definitely lose the confidence in you and will never share anything out which is the worst that can happen to the communication setting between parents and kids.
Another tip to have effective communication with your kids is that ask for their opinions so that actually feel that their views matter in the family. Do not go overboard with questions though as that can have entirely reverse effects on the communication you are having or are about to have with your kids. If they are asked for opinions, they will definitely feel that what they say is important and will make a difference. This will also boost your kids’ confidence too and they will feel free to share their ideas with you whenever they feel like it.
What most parents lack in is that if they are wrong in any way they never apologize thinking that it is ok. Yes, it is ok as you are the parent and the kids need to obey whatever you say but your apology can actually make their day. This not only helps in good communication with your kids but also instills in them the true spirit of apologizing for their own mistakes which is, something that the entire world lacks these days. They will automatically start feeling guilty whenever they do something which is not right.
Parents these days are normally busy with their own jobs and hectic routines and this is one of the major reasons for the big communication barrier that is arising between the kid and their parents. No matter how hectic it is for you, make sure that you take part in your kids’ life and know what is going on in it and what the most important thing to them is. There could be problems in their lives which they will not share with you thinking that you do not have the time to help them out. Never make your kids feel this way and give them time on your own. They should not have to ask you for your time as you are the parents and it is solely your responsibility to be there for your kids.
Follow these above mentioned easy tips to make the most of the parenting and building the most effective communication channel with your kids. The most important thing is to make them know how much you love them and that can only happen when you try and be their friend rather than someone who does not have time for them and their problems.